When most people hear the phrase “religious trauma” or “spiritual abuse,” they immediately jump to the conclusion that it denotes some form of sexual molestation.
It may, but that doesn’t mean it must.
Spiritual abuse certainly (and unfortunately) can take the form of sexual violence or assault. Whether it’s a pastor, priest, Sunday school teacher, or any other trusted religious leader, all too often the authority exercised takes a turn toward the sadistic and domineering.
The overt nature of this form of abuse actually makes it easier to identify, as ironic as this may sound.
But religious trauma can also stem from a type of spiritual abuse that is much more subtle and much less noticeable. In fact, sometimes it is the mere teaching of the Bible itself that can give rise to a lingering sense of fear, guilt, and shame, all of which, if not confronted head on, can and often does have crippling effects for those experiencing them.
Whether it is being told (implicitly or explicitly) that you are worthless and evil, or that your natural desires are all deviant, or that unless you jump through the right hoops you will suffer consciously in hell for all eternity, the result is the same: a paralyzing inability to function in the world with anything resembling peace, joy, or love (you know, those things the New Testament calls “the fruit of the Spirit”).
Those who see themselves in these descriptions will probably testify that, when they dare to share their struggles with others, they are told some version of “Just get over it” or “Focus on something else.”
As if it were that simple.
Without an experienced, trained, and trusted coach or mentor, the likely outcome is spinning your wheels at best, and spinning out of control at worst.
This is your life, health, and heart we are talking about. It’s time to advocate for yourself, and only you can initiate that healing journey.
