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Sexual Puritans in an R-Rated Culture

Posted by on Dec 2, 2015 in America, Culture, Culture War, Dan Savage, Homepage, Homosexuality, Pop Culture, Power, Sex | 2 comments

As you probably know, Christian and I interviewed Dan Savage on our most recent episode of Drunk Ex-Pastors. For those not familiar, Dan is  a gay-rights activist as well as the nation’s most well-known sex-advice columnist. Going in, we pretty much knew that the episode would make some people uncomfortable. We were right. I won’t spoil it for you, but suffice it to say that our conversation focused on sex in general and homosexuality in particular, and it featured just about everything you can imagine a discussion like that including. And true to form, some of our more conservative and Christian listeners disapproved. In a word, they thought it was distasteful and icky. Here’s the irony: Many corners of the Christian church have leaders who clamor for relevance, for a seat at the cultural table, and for a chance...

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Posted by on Jul 21, 2015 in Caitlyn Jenner, Culture, God, Homepage, Humanity, Love, Pop Culture, Sex, Sports | 10 comments

I realize Caitlyn Jenner has been discussed ad nauseam by this point, but I would like to weigh in from a slightly different angle. I fully recognize that in some rare cases a person’s sex may not comport with their gender identification. For example, hermaphrodites (or “intersex” people) who were born with both sets of genitalia simply have to live with whichever decision their doctor made at their birth regarding their future maleness or femaleness—the physician decides that their body should be female regardless of his not knowing (or being able to know) how his patient will feel about this decision when she grows up. There is no doubt that this can, and certainly has, caused great suffering for those who feel trapped in the wrong body. Still, these are murky waters, and discussion of this issue can be...

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Vengeance, Vindictiveness, and Valar Morghulis

Posted by on Mar 26, 2015 in Curses, Homepage, Humanity, Poetry, Pop Culture, Song of Ice and Fire | 1 comment

In George R. R. Martin’s epic series A Song of Ice and Fire  (on which the Game of Thrones  TV show is based) one character, Arya Stark, goes to sleep each night muttering the names of those on whom she vows to get revenge: Every night Arya would say their names. “Ser Gregor,” she’d whisper to her stone pillow. “Dunsen, Polliver, Chiswyck, Raff the Sweetling. The Tickler and the Hound. Ser Amory, Ser Ilyn, Ser Meryn, King Joffrey, Queen Cersei.” Whether out of vindictiveness or the more benign need for a coping device, it is not altogether unnatural to feel the need to utter the off-handed curse here and there. Hell, even the Biblical Psalter is filled with this kind of thing: “Break their teeth, O God, in their mouth!” (Psalm 58:6) The key to all this, I suppose, is to...

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“Now I’m Just Turning Tricks….”

Posted by on Mar 11, 2015 in Culture, Homepage, Humanity, Masks, Money, Music, Pop Culture | 7 comments

I have been a fan of Bright Eyes, and of their lead singer/songwriter Conor Oberst, for a little over a decade. Despite his being a bit off his game when I saw the band live (drunk), and despite his not having the best voice out there (understatement), his powers with a pen are admirable to say the least. And as a writer myself, I’m a sucker for a good turn of phrase. One of my favorite Bright Eyes songs is “Soul Singer in a Session Band” (see the link below). I know, I know: The title is a bit clumsy. But it paints an evocative picture, one of a vocalist-for-hire who has so much more emotional depth to offer than the standard fare at the weddings and other gigs he plays: “I was a hopeless romantic, but now I’m...

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Lucifer in 2016!

Posted by on Mar 9, 2015 in America, Culture War, God, Guns, Homepage, Money, Politics, Pop Culture, Power, Questioning Authority, Rapture, Work, Worldviews, Xenophobia | 0 comments

During a recent episode of Drunk Ex-Pastors  I made the point that I would welcome a presidential candidate who made no claims to being religious, since then I might actually have someone I’d consider voting for.  Think about it: If a candidate is an outspoken Christian he will almost certainly: (1) desire to defund as many state programs for the poor as possible; (2) turn away as many destitute people from our borders as he can, children included; (3) need the slimmest of reasons necessary before engaging in military action, action which will probably have some ulterior motive beyond the stated one; (4) fight against raising the minimum wage; (5) seek to deregulate corporations’ freedom to do whatever they want since they’re “people”; (6) deny climate change since it snowed this winter; (7) fight against reasonable gun legislation; and (8)...

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Podcast #9: Cops, Calvary Chapel, Hell, and Football

Posted by on Sep 28, 2014 in Catholic Church, Football, God, Hell, Homepage, Humor, Podcasts, Pop Culture, Racism, Sports | 0 comments

In this episode of Drunk Ex-Pastors, Jason presents Christian with a gift that he needs but will never use; the discussion turns to whether or not the police force attracts people who were picked on in school and therefore need to take out their frustrations on the powerless and weak; we discuss the recent controversy surrounding the lawsuit against our former church, Calvary Chapel, by two of its now-deceased founding pastor’s children; we answer a Twitter follower’s question about whether Jesus and Paul thought hell was a real place of eternal torment; and lastly, Jason exhibits his laser-sharp understanding of how to win at football (besides just shooting lots of homeruns, which is obvious). Listen to Podcast #9: Cops, Calvary Chapel, Hell, and...

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Podcast #8: The One Where We Use the N-Word

Posted by on Sep 22, 2014 in Alcohol, Food, Homepage, Homosexuality, Humor, Justin Bieber, Movies, Podcasts, Politics, Pop Culture, Power, Racism, Sex, Women | 5 comments

In this episode of Drunk Ex-Pastors, Christian gives me a very special gift (hint: it’s small, sings like a little Canadian boy, and you put it in your mouth); we take feedback from a female listener who is frustrated by her former time in the church when all her “sisters in Christ” thought she wanted to steal their husbands; we delve into the issue of language and labels, focusing on whether and when it’s OK to use “the N-word” as well as whether jokingly labeling stuff “gay” or “retarded” is a retarded, gay thing to do; I bitch about my culinary needs never being met, while we hoist a poignant shot which Christian saved for the very end of the show. Listen to Podcast #8: The One Where We Use the...

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Podcast #7: Scary Movies, Dead Americans, and Mark Driscoll’s Penis

Posted by on Sep 17, 2014 in America, Homepage, Humor, Isis, Mark Driscoll, Movies, Podcasts, Pop Culture, Porn, Sex, Technology, TV, Women | 0 comments

Episode #7 of Drunk Ex-Pastors is now available to download or stream. In this installment, I explain why I don’t like movies containing red-headed twin children or the Holocaust; Christian reveals some sobering facts about ISIS and their plot to take over America (or just kill us all, we’re not sure at this point); we take some listener feedback asking about Mark Driscoll’s penis and who it really  belongs to; and lastly, Christian complains about the insensitivity of certain drivers’ parking habits, while I lament all progress in general. Listen to Podcast #7: Scary Movies, Dead Americans, and Mark Driscoll’s...

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Posted by on Sep 16, 2014 in Beauty, Homepage, Pop Culture, Porn, Women | 0 comments

As has been reported, a massive security breach has recently led to over 100 celebrities’ cell phones being hacked and their personal photos stolen and uploaded to the web for all the world to see (I believe the celebs were all female). As you can imagine, the majority of the pics shared fall into the category of nude selfies. The victims include Jennifer Lawrence and Kate Upton, two women that I’m sure no one  would like to see naked (</sarcasm>). Unsurprisingly, many on the Right are blaming the women themselves for even having these pics on their devices in the first place (basically, it serves them right for being such hussies). Not unlike when the creepier details of the Patriot Act were made known, the response among conservatives is that if you have nothing to hide, then it shouldn’t matter...

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Hot Enough for Acting?

Posted by on Sep 5, 2014 in Acting, Beauty, Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Homepage, Movies, Pop Culture, TV | 2 comments

As I explain in episode 4 of Drunk Ex-Pastors  below, it is my contention that only around 10% of household-name “actors” are actually talented at acting, while the rest just aren’t (among this other 90% are names like Brad Pitt, Diane Keaton, George Clooney, Sandra Bullock, etc.).  Now don’t get me wrong, these people can act, kind of. But they are not more talented at acting than most people are at doing whatever they like doing in their spare time (unlike professional athletes like Kobe Bryant or Lionel Messi, who excel at what they do on a level far beyond 99% of most people do at what they’re passionate about).  Put another way, I, Jason Stellman, am about as good at public speaking or writing books as Jason Bateman is at acting. Shocking, I know. So why do most...

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