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Sexual Puritans in an R-Rated Culture

Posted by on Dec 2, 2015 in America, Culture, Culture War, Dan Savage, Homepage, Homosexuality, Pop Culture, Power, Sex | 2 comments

As you probably know, Christian and I interviewed Dan Savage on our most recent episode of Drunk Ex-Pastors. For those not familiar, Dan is  a gay-rights activist as well as the nation’s most well-known sex-advice columnist. Going in, we pretty much knew that the episode would make some people uncomfortable. We were right. I won’t spoil it for you, but suffice it to say that our conversation focused on sex in general and homosexuality in particular, and it featured just about everything you can imagine a discussion like that including. And true to form, some of our more conservative and Christian listeners disapproved. In a word, they thought it was distasteful and icky. Here’s the irony: Many corners of the Christian church have leaders who clamor for relevance, for a seat at the cultural table, and for a chance...

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Posted by on Jul 21, 2015 in Caitlyn Jenner, Culture, God, Homepage, Humanity, Love, Pop Culture, Sex, Sports | 10 comments

I realize Caitlyn Jenner has been discussed ad nauseam by this point, but I would like to weigh in from a slightly different angle. I fully recognize that in some rare cases a person’s sex may not comport with their gender identification. For example, hermaphrodites (or “intersex” people) who were born with both sets of genitalia simply have to live with whichever decision their doctor made at their birth regarding their future maleness or femaleness—the physician decides that their body should be female regardless of his not knowing (or being able to know) how his patient will feel about this decision when she grows up. There is no doubt that this can, and certainly has, caused great suffering for those who feel trapped in the wrong body. Still, these are murky waters, and discussion of this issue can be...

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Hamster Sex: How Young is Too Young?

Posted by on Oct 9, 2014 in Homepage, Sex, Sex Education | 4 comments

I finally finished listening back to Drunk Ex-Pastors #10 yesterday, and I found myself practically wanting a complete do-over (that kind of thing is pretty common for me: “I should have said this”; “I could have been clearer there,” etc.). One issue that just wasn’t sitting right for me was the point I was making about sex being more than simply scratching a biological itch. The reason I was insisting on this is that humans are not just natural but supernatural beings, a point that any parent tacitly agrees with when he or she says something like, “I don’t think my 12 year-old daughter is emotionally ready to have sex.” We don’t say that of hamsters, because we all know that humans are a higher order of being than animals. Plus hamsters don’t reach age 12, so. The rub for me comes...

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On Pee-Pees and Hoo-Haws

Posted by on Oct 7, 2014 in Culture War, Disease, Education, Homepage, Questioning Authority, Sex, Sex Education, Worldviews | 5 comments

In episode #10 of Drunk Ex-Pastors, Christian and I discuss the thorny issue of sex education. Now to be honest, I have not actually listened back to it myself, so I don’t remember exactly what I said on the matter. I’ll take a stab at re-presenting some of my thoughts, and you can feel free to push back and challenge them. My main concern is that I am uncomfortable with something of such monumental significance being taught to my children by a P.E. teacher (true story in my case). This kind of education should be happening primarily in the home, with outside sources reinforcing what mom or dad is already communicating. Secondly, what if (that’s hypothetical language, by the way) a family’s values don’t match up with a school’s? For example, what if a parent doesn’t think that sex should...

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Podcast #8: The One Where We Use the N-Word

Posted by on Sep 22, 2014 in Alcohol, Food, Homepage, Homosexuality, Humor, Justin Bieber, Movies, Podcasts, Politics, Pop Culture, Power, Racism, Sex, Women | 5 comments

In this episode of Drunk Ex-Pastors, Christian gives me a very special gift (hint: it’s small, sings like a little Canadian boy, and you put it in your mouth); we take feedback from a female listener who is frustrated by her former time in the church when all her “sisters in Christ” thought she wanted to steal their husbands; we delve into the issue of language and labels, focusing on whether and when it’s OK to use “the N-word” as well as whether jokingly labeling stuff “gay” or “retarded” is a retarded, gay thing to do; I bitch about my culinary needs never being met, while we hoist a poignant shot which Christian saved for the very end of the show. Listen to Podcast #8: The One Where We Use the...

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Women: Walking Vaginas? Or Something More?

Posted by on Sep 18, 2014 in Culture War, Homepage, Power, Sex, Women | 5 comments

Many of you with a religious background will know that Genesis records the creation of Eve from Adam’s rib because Adam needed a “helpmeet” or counterpart with whom he could relate (up to that point there were just animals roaming around). It is very easy for religious people to jump from the Genesis record to the idea that women only exist to make men’s lives easier, and have no distinct purpose of their own outside pleasing their husbands and bearing his children (a position that, as we discussed in episode #7 of Drunk Ex-Pastors, Mark Driscoll appears to hold). Have any thoughts on this? If you’re a female, got any horror stories to share? Have a listen...

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Podcast #7: Scary Movies, Dead Americans, and Mark Driscoll’s Penis

Posted by on Sep 17, 2014 in America, Homepage, Humor, Isis, Mark Driscoll, Movies, Podcasts, Pop Culture, Porn, Sex, Technology, TV, Women | 0 comments

Episode #7 of Drunk Ex-Pastors is now available to download or stream. In this installment, I explain why I don’t like movies containing red-headed twin children or the Holocaust; Christian reveals some sobering facts about ISIS and their plot to take over America (or just kill us all, we’re not sure at this point); we take some listener feedback asking about Mark Driscoll’s penis and who it really  belongs to; and lastly, Christian complains about the insensitivity of certain drivers’ parking habits, while I lament all progress in general. Listen to Podcast #7: Scary Movies, Dead Americans, and Mark Driscoll’s...

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Podcast #6: Poker, Nude Selfies, and Rape Culture

Posted by on Sep 13, 2014 in Homepage, Podcasts, Rape, Sex | 3 comments

Drunk Ex-Pastors  episode 6 is here, get it while it’s hot! In this edition of the podcast, Christian and I discuss my lack of proper decorum at the poker table, and then spend the remainder fielding a listener question about the infamous celebrity selfie leak. This topic leads pretty naturally into a discussion of rape culture, during which Christian accuses me of contributing to it, thereby displaying his lack of philosophical nuance and sophistication.  Listen to Podcast #6: Poker, Nude Selfies, and...

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Don’t Get Raped

Posted by on Aug 10, 2014 in Culture War, Homepage, Moderation, Power, Rape, Sex, Women | 16 comments

In a recent piece on Upworthy dealing with the kind of objectification that many women deal with on a regular basis, a young woman agrees to be followed by someone with a hidden camera for an entire day in order to capture the kind of treatment she gets from men in the form of catcalls and lewd comments. It is pretty eye-opening (especially if you’re a guy), and I would recommend spending the 6+ minutes it will take to watch it.  One thing that stood out to me was when the young woman said: “I know I dress kind of provocative, but it doesn’t mean I should have to deal with [this kind of treatment].” I recently got into a discussion with a friend about this kind of thing, and the “rape culture” issue in general, and I’d like...

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On Mindlessly Crying “Wolf!”

Posted by on Jan 2, 2014 in Drugs, Homepage, Jason, Money, Movies, Pop Culture, Sex | 14 comments

I recently saw the film The Wolf of Wall Street  starring Leocapro DiNardio (which is what I call him now, because I like it). I had been hearing that the movie was somewhat controversial because of its supposed glorification of the lifestyle enjoyed by Jordan Belfort, whom DiNardio portrays in the film. That’s right, I said “enjoyed.” Let me break it down for you. . . . Belfort was a shady stockbroker who struck it rich on Wall Street in the early ’90s and spent the next several years buying helicopters, cruising around on his yacht, sniffing drugs, and partying with prostitutes. And yes, the movie shows him doing all these things. In the end (Spoiler Alert) he gets caught and serves a breezy few years in a minimum security prison, enjoying the special privileges his wealth affords him while...

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